I have been married 14yrs and work over seas now but i dont think my wife misses me she does not write or call

we have four kids and i dont know if i love her orif she loves me i have asked here to go on tripes but she says she does not like to fly or no one will wach the kids i was abel to get to france for a week but she would not come and see me i could not go home i will be home for the first time in 8months & asked to send a weekend together to go some where she said will see what the *** sould i find someone over here to do things with or what come on ladys what do you want from us guys i have done everything to try to keep my marriage going i dont know what to do any more